I will celebrate my 40th wedding anniversary in a couple of days and it dawned on me that in some ways my life has changed and in other ways it seems so very similar. I remember dating Larry and thinking that I would never marry and never have kids and now almost 40 years later I have had to eat everyone of one my words expecially when it comes to love and romance. I think women work much harder keeping romance alive in a relationship than men. It must date back to our early beginnings when finding a mate (strong, muscular, good hunter and good fighter )was key to our survival and the survival of our children. I have found that how women change depends oftentimes on their psychological and physical well-being. I know of many older women who have left what appears to be strong, vital marriages to live independently and find their bliss. I also know many other older women who have stayed in marriages and were able to carve out lives for themselves and still find their bliss and happiness.
After almost 40 years of marriage I do believe a woman can find herself and become the woman she always was intended to be. The woman I talk about is strong, fit, and able to care for herself and uses her talents to make the world a better place to live. She is able to bring other women to the table to build “women power” and connections that enable women to flourish and succeed at anything they might desire to be or do in their lives. They have traded their fears of failure for a healthy dose of self-confidence and found their voices. There is nothing sweeter than a woman who speaks her mind and shares her views of the world with others. I have watched many women grow and find a piece of themselves that might at first cause shock and awe and later amazement and joy when they use their power to make a difference.
Are you living the life you were intended to live and do you feel you are in the right place at the right time in your life? Right now take a pen and paper and write down what makes you feel joy and happiness and see if you are following your own master plan. If you find that a blank paper is all you can come up with than I would say it is time to create the life that you were meant to have and to live. Make today you take time to think about what is important to you and what makes hours fly. What thing you do that you hate to stop and cannot wait to get back it. This is what is called “Bliss” and you can have it and you deserve it and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Do not tell yourself you are a victim of your life experiences and that you cannot try to change your life. I recently received a touching email from a woman in her mid 50s who admitted she was in a bad marriage and wanted to get out She said the years and the abuse had taken its tole on her and that she was now fat, no longer pretty and had not worked for a long time. She was worried that it would be especially hard for her to leave and who would want to give her a job and how would she care for herself. It took a lot of courage for her to write to me and to share her story. I told her she was courageous and that her healing had begun when she sat down to write to me. It takes only a few moments in time to make your life different, to write a new chapter, to begin again and to clean the slate to make the life you want. Whatever is holding you back take a good look at it and tell yourself it can longer hold your or control you. Make today the day you begin the life you were intended to live and tomorrow will be a pretty amazing day. You know you are worth it.
If you have a story of survival or triumph over being a “victim to a survivor” please let us know and we would love to share it with other women. Your words can bring great comfort and support of other women. Please join us in helping women “live the lives they were intended to live”. Blessings and much joy to you all.
Oh, by the way I am going to go ahead and have that big celebration of being married to good man for 40 years but I am also going to celebrate the woman I have become in that time and also be thinking about the woman I am and the life I was intended to live….happy, free, and blissful.