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When Paldrom Catherine Collins found out she was in love with a recovering sex addict, she decided to save her relationship. She worked with him in his counseling business, Compulsion Solutions, Inc. and she co-wrote a book with him to help others, The Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction. Having been a Buddhist nun, Paldrom’s naturalRead the Rest…

Timeless Women Develop Powerful Networks Women are using today’s social networking tools to multiply their connections for fun and profit. Dr. Nancy O’Reilly interviews two amazing women who specialize in developing powerful connections. Woman Who Shatters Limitations Dr. Fern Kazlow excels in shattering limitations—especially financial ones. She has shared her know-how with her trademarked programsRead the Rest…

A major challenge any leader faces is keeping members connected. It’s hard to keep them involved with the general workings and mission of their association. Regardless of your group’s purpose and goals, there are a lot of activities out there competing for your members attention, so you must continually strengthen their bond with the group.Read the Rest…

We hear it all the time: the key to fundraising and membership success is communications. But just what does that mean? And how on earth do you do it? This wonderful toolkit from the United Way Women’s Leadership Council sets out best practices for running a solid and coordinated communications campaign. Even better, it offersRead the Rest…

As everyone who has ever led a fundraising campaign knows, it’s hard to get everyone on the committee to take responsibility and truly embrace the goal. 6 Tips on How To Get Your Committee to Take Responsibility Communicate. In fact, OVER-communicate. You’re familiar with all the details — and you remember them –  because youRead the Rest…

The U.S. Census Bureau tells us that 36.2 million Americans are available singles over age 45. Lots of them are dating. If you are a midlife woman who is dating again – or still – you know better than to base your self-worth on a man. A good partner can enhance your life, to beRead the Rest…

A recent article by contributor Kerry Hannon in forbes.com reported a LinkedIn survey of nearly 1,000 female professionals in the U.S. They found that most American women feel that it’s important to have a mentor. Unfortunately, one woman in five lacks a mentor, and the deck is stacked against women over 44. Nearly two-thirds ofRead the Rest…

What do you do when your child or grandchild says, “I need you to tell me the truth. Are you Santa?” Read this wonderful post by a sensitive mother , writer Martha Brockenbrough, who fielded this question with tact. She managed to preserve the mystery and magic of the season. Thanks to Iron Butterfly BiruteRead the Rest…

The Value of Women’s Work Women often complain about feeling invisible, ignored and dismissed in their workplaces. A wonderful new article posted by Charmaine McClarie on W2Wlink describes four common traps and how to avoid falling into them. 1. Blindly oblivious at work. This person has no idea what it takes to get ahead inRead the Rest…

Looking for examples of a promotional brochure, welcome letter and new member packet for your fundraising initiative? Look no farther. Other successful women are eager to share. If you haven’t already joined, check out the United Way Women’s Leadership Council on Linked In. After you join you’ll find the group very welcoming. Glenda Abbot ofRead the Rest…

I wish everyone was happy and safe this holiday season, but sadly many are not. Our associate Shirley Osborne asks us to send positive energy and thoughts to one group of women. ~Dr. Nancy Native American Women – Highest Rates of Abuse and Sexual Violence Native American women suffer the highest rates of domestic abuseRead the Rest…

The holidays bring the generations together, which often leads to conflicts and disappointment. Clinical psychologist Barbara Greenberg, PhD, author of “Teenage as a Second Language” sent us  an article about inter-generational issues with teens. Have you experienced any of these feelings? Her website offers a support community for people dealing with teen issues. ~Dr. NancyRead the Rest…

Just returned from a screening of the indie documentary MissRepresentation and Oh boy, what wonderful discussions and conversations followed as the audience mingled after the film. Think how women are portrayed in the media these days.   Tired of the heavily made-up stereotypes displaying their DD bust lines on emaciated bodies. Tired of the bimboRead the Rest…

What kind of Halloween costumes will you put on your kids this year? Post photos of your creative Halloween costumes and counteract gender stereotypes. What will you wear yourself? What messages will these costumes say about girls and women’s roles, and about men’s relationships to women? It’s worth thinking about! Missrepresentation.org is a growing movementRead the Rest…

How to Recruit New Board Members Before you begin some bizarre recruitment ritual, realize you are facing a common problem. You’re having trouble filling your board positions, a few people are doing most of the work, and the steady workers are in danger of burning out. We often hear this statement in organization meetings, usuallyRead the Rest…

How can I use my power to change women’s image in the media? Our media denigrate even the most powerful women in our country such as Hilary Clinton, Condoleezza Rice, Sarah Palin and Nancy Pelosi. Commentators focus on whether they had plastic surgery, what they wear, and how old they look. What chance does anRead the Rest…

I would  like to  get members excited about my chapter or organization Cynthia D’Amour, founder of the Chapter Leaders Playground, posted a webinar 10-7-2011. During the webinar she polled listeners and found that 93% wanted some help increasing enthusiasm for their group. Only 7% said that all their members are totally excited about their group.Read the Rest…

Technology was supposed to give us more leisurely and better lives. Sadly, many women are discovering an opposite effect. Instead of feeling plugged in, they find themselves isolated, cut off from real human interaction. This isolation is especially painful — and dangerous — for women who work from home. They have no contact in theRead the Rest…

All Individuals Have The Right To A Life Free From Abuse Please join Harmony House for the following events in October 2011 Night of Unity Date: Monday, October 3rd Time: 7 pm Location: The Gillioz Theatre, 325 Park Central East Speaker, Survivor Stories & Roundtable  6:30 pm Reception & book signing with Rebecca Adams(Board MembersRead the Rest…

How do I keep cliques from damaging my group? You know the bad things about cliques. Workplace expert and blogger Marlene Chism tells us that Cliques can represent exclusion Cliques contribute to jealousy Cliques create a tribal mentality or blind spots But despite the problems they can create for your fundraising, volunteer, community, school orRead the Rest…

Fundraising is essential to success for social-profit groups, and it takes a lot of work to achieve success. Use these 11 tips to increase your bottom line while avoiding frustration in your volunteers. 1) Handling the money It’s like banking. Split responsibility for money handling between two people who are not related. Always employ checkRead the Rest…

In its first annual Evening in Paris event, Female Leaders in Philanthropy netted more than $26,000 to fund the group’s three service projects in Springfield, Missouri. FLiP is a United Way Women’s Initiative. The funds will go to support: Formally Yours, which provides prom dresses for needy teens Suit Yourself Boutique, which outfits women inRead the Rest…

 Do you get what you ask for?Are you a great negotiator? Many women hate to bargain, but it’s an essential skill in relationships and in the business world. A brief article in Inc. Magazine cautions about five things we should NOT do when negotiating if we don’t want to give the advantage to the otherRead the Rest…

Social-profit organization guru Cynthia D’Amour offers specific tips for recruiting new members, which is essential if you want to boost volunteers and fundraising power. In a recent podcast she urges us to have EAGER Fall Meetings. 1. Everyone in the group buys into the idea of growth. 2. All are inviting guests to your meetings.Read the Rest…

Speaking of helping women advance in the world of science and technology, blogger Mary Hodder offers a fascinating discussion of male-female differences and how they play out in the workplace. Men as risk takers, women as the ones who think ahead to prevent problems they KNOW they will be left to clean up……..hmmmm, that soundsRead the Rest…

Vulnerability An Inescapable Human Trait – Make it a Strength When we have worked so hard to achieve credibility and position and influence and power it can feel deeply threatening to reveal our human vulnerabilities. It’s necessary, though, and can actually put us in a much stronger position than trying to pretend we’re never wrong,Read the Rest…

Have you ever noticed how hard women are on other women? They don’t only dis other women in high school or at cocktail parties. Non-feminists hate feminists; some women columnists hate women’s websites. Forbes’ blogger Meghan Casserly writes: “It simply doesn’t sit well with me. “Yes, yes, I get it: it’s a shame that “women’s”Read the Rest…

ENCORE by popular request: Dr. Birute Regine World leadership is undergoing a quiet revolution You won’t find out about it in the headlines or on the chatter of morning talk. But it’s there and it’s happening in waves among women who are slowly recognizing their power and how they can work together to find theRead the Rest…

FLiP Mentoring Program Introduction:            <your committee person> & <your committee person> Overview:             What to expect from the Mentoring program Defining the “mentor’s role” – the goal is to help the mentees find a job, but the mentor’s role is to share experiences, suggestions, and provide support to assist mentee and help them gain moreRead the Rest…

Greetings Mentors! Yes, it does ‘take a village’ and FLiP’s first mentoring project is no different. You as mentors are the infrastructure in this evolving process, facilitating another woman’s work and life skills preparation. We thank you for attending a training session last week. Your commitment to share with, listen to and support our mentees,Read the Rest…

FLiP Establishes Mentoring Program for Women in Transition Springfield’s Female Leaders in Philanthropy has for several years helped women in transition. The Suit Yourself Boutique, by appointment, has provided each woman referred in by community agencies with several complete outfits of appropriate, gently used, work-ready clothing. The membership decided to undertake a further mentoring programRead the Rest…

Initial Organizing Meeting for FLiP’s Mentoring Program Dr. Nancy shares the preliminary information here. This is a work in progress that we hope may assist others in setting up their own programs. Springfield’s Female leaders in Philanthropy, a group that Dr. Nancy chairs, has started a mentoring program for women who have been referred toRead the Rest…

Volunteers rarely get thanked enough for what they do. Read these 5 quick tips on how to encourage them. 1. Say Yes When They Ask for Your Help. We have all been taught that a key to time management is learning how to say NO. However, when it comes to serving our volunteers, we needRead the Rest…

Do some of the birds in your flock feel more important than others? “It seems like our volunteer meetings are times for the “in” gals to have fun with all of their favorites. I feel left out and don’t want to be a part of it anymore.” Chances are you have never received feedback likeRead the Rest…

Have these volunteer-busters happened to you? • Reply-all-email overload?• Showing up and not being needed?• Wanting to volunteer and not getting a call back? The Case Foundation interviewed Karen Bantuveris, the founder of VolunteerSpot <http://www.volunteerspot.com/>, a volunteer management platform whose basic service level is free. You’re not alone and it doesn’t have to bring youRead the Rest…

By Dr. Nancy D. O’Reilly, Psy.D Women will really love this idea: We can actually feel womanly without guilt.  Get ready to embrace your feminine vulnerability. Women’s special gifts––relational intelligence, holistic perspective, seeing connections among things, web thinking, admitting mistakes––just may save the world! So says Dr. Birute Regine, a developmental psychologist who received bothRead the Rest…

Does your body language match what you really think? Or is your body giving away a big lie?  Do you know how to use body language to get what you want? Dr. Nancy asked the “lyin tamer,” Janine Driver for answers to these questions in this exciting conversation. Janine Driver is a body language expert,Read the Rest…

Do you sacrifice fun, fulfillment, good health and loving relationships for success? Performance Psychologist, Dr. Shannon Reece says that’s backward thinking. Yet many of us rush to sacrifice more of our happiness and well-being to succeed in business.   Shannon turned her experience as an athlete into a career of coaching others how to leverageRead the Rest…

Email us your top three tips for solving these universal challenges! The WomenSpeak Project recently conducted an online survey of women’s experiences in social-profit (not-for-profit or community) activities in order to assess the demand and determine content for an online resource. Of the 98 women who responded, nearly all (90%) said they participated actively inRead the Rest…

I’ve  heard midlife women fretting recently that younger women today aren’t feminists and that they think all the battles have already been won. Not so, according to a very smart post by Katha Pollitt http://tinyurl.com/2cpblcu about Feminism’s Generation War. Pollitt gives a knowledgeable overview and concludes that the grievances among older and younger women comeRead the Rest…

I just came back from a week long trip in a RV (Recreational Vehicle). I went with my two dogs, Natty and Golly and with my husband Larry. If you have not seen the movie with Robin Williams appropriately titled “RV” you may have a difficult time visualizing the trip we took.  RV is a hilariousRead the Rest…

Research Shows Happy Marriages Are Good for Health, Especially for Men High stress levels were best predictor of divorce. 75% of those who died during sex were in an extramarital affair. Men in good marriages had fewer illnesses than wives did. Wives in bad marriages had more illnesses than husbands did. The notion that marriageRead the Rest…

Here’s an excerpt from a 1950s high school home economics textbook. If their mothers acted this way, small wonder they’re confused by us millennium women! Do you ever feel guilty because you can’t live up to this fantasy of the “Good Wife”? Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a deliciousRead the Rest…

This man in front of you, whom you trusted and relied on all these years, is no longer the same. You yell, scream, reason, cry, argue, debate, plead and finally demand he be who he used to be. It is not going to happen! He is finally going through what many before him went throughRead the Rest…

Men aren’t born passive. Women aren’t born wild. We just have that effect on each other … too often. When and why does a conversation become one-sided, or dissolve into conflict? How can you turn it around and stay sane? Man’s Attitude At work… the man is often active, articulate, assertive, and usually successful inRead the Rest…

Are You Really Ready for Marriage? by Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP Marriage is an enormous commitment. Before you take the big plunge, do a quick check to see if there is water in the pool. The following quiz can help you and your beloved assess your readiness for the responsibility of marriageRead the Rest…

Timeless Women Connect on Facebook Is there someone you’d like to find? Perhaps there’s a childhood friend, a long-lost relative or Mr. Wonderful somewhere out there…if only you knew where. Hundreds of millions of people are connecting on Facebook. Dr. Nancy’s guest, Emily Liebert, has written about the most amazing 25 stories of impossible connectionsRead the Rest…

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Timeless Women Find Their Sexual Selves Do you have trouble talking openly about sex? Many of us were brought up in families that didn’t talk about sex. We depend on the inaccurate media messages and myths from childhood to form our ideas about this important aspect of ourselves. Libby Bennett, Psy.D., faced those same obstaclesRead the Rest…

Timeless Women Navigate Change What do you want from life? Do you feel powerless to create the life you want? Are you stuck in a relationship, a job or a situation you feel like you didn’t choose? In her new bestseller, Me, Myself, and Why? The Secrets to Navigating Change, Lisa Mininni presents a frameworkRead the Rest…