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I Have a Gun and I am Out of Estrogen….Are You Safe?

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

I recently purchased a handgun for personal protection.  I have handled guns and have shot both shotguns and hand guns but never owned by own gun.  It is a strange feeling to walk into gun store pick out the gun of my choice and within seconds be cleared and able to purchase and walk out of that store with a high powered handgun.  I guess I am still wondering about it all.  I know I am not going to go out and rob a bank or shoot my neighbor or get mad at my hubby and blow him away.  I am not about to “make my day” as Clint Eastwood warned the bad guy when he played his famous character, Dirty Harry.  I have a gun and yes I have been out of estrogen for many years.  I will respect my gun and use it only if someone I love is threatened or I am personally in harms way.  I will use it if I have to and that is why I bought it.  I have learned since telling others about my recent purchase I am not alone. The number one purchaser of handgunsare women and they are packing.  Many of them are buying guns and going out and getting a “cancealed weapons license”.  This means they are able with this license to carry this weapon in their purse, brief case, backpack or carry with a shoulder harness on their bodies.

I must admit this is what I also am in the process of doing. I am planning on taking an all-day class which if I pass the exam will allow me to carry my weapon on my person.  Wow, I have even looked at shoulder harnesses and clips that would attach to my belt.  Women are taking their second amendment right to carry a firearm.  I guess sooner of later many of us decide that is time to take the initiative to protect ourselves and those they love.  I have fired it several times and each time I fire it I know this is serious business.  I want to be comfortable and proficient with this gun.  I have decided to also name her. Yes, she is a female.  I have friend and her gun’s name is Molly.  I think my gun should have a very strong, exotic name like Sonja , Silvia or Brandy.  I will decide soon.

Have you thought about getting a gun to protect yourself?  I will keep you posted on my progress and whether or not I get my concealed weapons  license.  I will be honest I have not done well with my target shooting so I need to practice a lot.  I promise I will not forget the danger and safety needed when you have a gun in your home. It has a safety and when my kids or grand kids are around it will get locked up.  It came with a very nice gun lock with a key and everything.  I hope this story as “made your day” and you know you must learn to protect yourself and never find yourself a victim of a violent crime ever. Overall I think there are really good people in this world but there are also some really nasty characthers.  Have a safe and great life.

Fitness after 40 Blog

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Being a leading edge Baby Boomer, I endured peri-menopause before most women began discussing it on talk shows or magazines.  I was therefore shocked and amazed at the physiological changes of my body. Forget the hot flashes, panic attacks and mood swings. It was the weight gain that was the shocker.

I had remained a trim 118-120 pounds from the time I was about 18 years old until around 42. Granted my new country life and happy marriage was more conducive to weight gain. Other contributing factors were forest morel mushrooms fried in butter, warm, crusty yeast bread from my leading edge bread machine, the light-as-air buttermilk biscuits I had learned to make for my southern-reared  husband.  And I was no longer a stressed-out, single, corporate ladder-climbing, city-dwelling professional.

I spent the next 15 years packing it on….all the way to 165 pounds. I see-sawed with South Beach and Sugar Busters and fair-weather jogging, but couldn’t ever push it under 140. In my youth, fair-weather jogging was enough to keep it off, but no more….not any more.

If you are facing these struggles, read Dr. Nancy’s article “Fitness after 40.” It has concise, sound guidelines for how to combat, not just mid-life weight gain, but anytime weight and fitness control. Check it out and save your money for some “show off that new body” clothes.

Women Under 50: Should You Mammo Every Year?

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

Women are worried about the recent recommendation that women under 50 NOT routinely receive mammograms. It’s hard to formulate a coherent rationale when experts have a variety of opinions. That’s what makes health care reform so challenging, isn’t it? Deciding how to allocate our limited resources.

Here are two perspectives I found in my in-box this morning from the RTIR newsletter.

Dr. W. Phil Evans, president of the society for breast imaging (SBI), says the recommendations are a step backward and represent a significant harm to women’s health.

A government health advisory panel has come out with controversial new recommendations about women and mammograms. The group, going against current guidelines set by the American Cancer Society, advises against routine screening for women 40-49 years old, one mammogram every 2 years for women between 50 and 74, and none for women over 74. Dr. Evans, says, “To tell women they should not get regular mammograms starting at 40 when this approach has overwhelmingly been shown to save lives is shocking. At least 40 percent of the lives saved by mammographic screening are of women aged 40-49. These recommendations are inconsistent with current science and apparently have been developed in an attempt to reduce costs. Unfortunately, many women may pay for this unsound approach with their lives.”

In contrast, a women’s health expert says that women’s fear of breast cancer is distracting them from much more important health issues.

Expert Nancy Sharts-Hopko believes the panel’s recommendations are based on long-term observations about what is effective. She adds that women are being misled about their real risks. “By far the number one killer of women is heart disease. One out of two American women will die of heart disease or stroke, which each year kills 356,000 women, compared to 42,000 women who die of breast cancer annually. Yet breast cancer is the top health fear of American women. We have much work to do in aligning women’s perceptions and self-care with this reality.”

Nancy Sharts-Hopko, Ph.D., RN, is a tenured Professor in the Villanova University College of Nursing. She has worked in the field of women’s health nursing for over 30 years; her published research has focused on women’s perceived health during various life and health transitions. She has also served as a member of and later as a consultant to two FDA Advisory Committees.

Here’s my BIG question: Does it have to be either/or?

Disability 101 – A Story of Stress, Patience and Process

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

I have been to the cliff of bankruptcy because of illness twice, looked over and managed to find a way to step back from it. The first time, was in January 2001; the second was in January, 2008 and we’re not out of the woods yet.

Anyone who has received a physical disability in the military – or who cares for someone who has – needs to talk with other women who have been through it. Dr. Nancy has encouraged me to tell my story here in hopes of helping other women handle the stress—and the system.

A study recently released in the American Journal of Medicine reported that 62% of all bankruptcies filed in 2007 were linked to medical expenses.  This figure increased by 20% since 2001. This was reported in a number of publications including the National Coalition of Health Care. No matter what your stance on health care reform and no matter how good your health insurance, serious illness can break you financially if you’re not prepared for a massive emergency. And, unless you have unlimited wealth, few of us are prepared for everything.

Short version of a long story: In July, 2000, my husband, John, awoke one morning and could no longer walk without excruciating pain. It followed that he could no longer work as a U.S. postal clerk He received no more pay checks and we embarked on a long, rigorous, expensive and confusing maze through the medical system.

Finally, in October, we tried a new internist, who communicated the diagnosis in a way we could understand. It was “spinal stenosis,” a narrowing of the vertebrae usually caused by one or more injuries and possibly aggravated by activities of living. I have only a lay person’s knowledge, but the symptoms are evident. My husband suffers from severe peripheral neuropathy (nerve damage) that feels like nails are being hammered into his feet at one point and complete numbness at another. Muscle spasms and debilitating cramps are more frequent than in most people. By February, 2001, when we filed our first disability claim, he could barely grip the pen to sign the forms at the Human Resources office at the post office where he used to work.

In March 2001, he received his first spinal lamenectomy (back surgery) in which the surgeon removed portions of Cervical 3-Cervical 7 to relieve pressure around the spinal cord and prevent paralysis. This surgery was successful, although John still drops things frequently and suffers from numbness and cramping in his hands and arms. In June, he received a second lamenectomy to relieve pressure around the nerves going to his lower extremities. The surgeon said that the bones were crumbling and he could not remove as much as he wanted to. John’s current doctor refers to him as “a victim of a failed back surgery.”

In April 2001, John received his disability award from the US Postal Service. From July of 2000 to April of 2001, we had no stable income. I hustled writing and pursued the hand-crafted jewelry business that we had begun together, sent cashiers checks by certified mail to keep our Federal Employees Health Insurance active and managed to keep everything afloat until January, 2001. We were broke and we had no immediate income.

Our “nest egg” was an extra retirement fund we contributed to that had been growing at 27% in the stock market. We cashed that in just before the market crashed that year. But we had to pay the previously deferred income taxes and a penalty until we filed a letter stating that we were withdrawing it “under duress.” The taxes were refunded as well.

We continued to limp along financially until June of that year, when John was granted an increase in his VA disability. With the VA income, he was receiving almost as much as he did working full time. I set up easy payment plans with the hospitals and doctors and, although he was still in excruciating pain, we had reached an equilibrium.

John’s original injury that caused his spinal stenosis happened while he was in the Army during the Viet Nam War. To receive disability from the VA, you have to prove that the incident causing the disability happened during your service. He has emergency room records that report the treatment he received for these injuries.

Now, 40 years later, his health is severely compromised. He’s on pain therapy, but has been declining and easily gets every infection that hits the general population. In January, 2008, he had 5 teeth removed and nearly died with the infection. The oral surgeon didn’t understand his condition and didn’t prescribe strong enough antibiotics.

By May, 2008, we had racked up about $5,000 in medical bills and I was back on easy-payment plans with hospitals and doctors. Maybe I’m just lucky. But when I receive these charges and know that I cannot pay them on time, I immediately call the office and ask to set up a payment plan. I have never been refused. And I have never been charged interest. I have heard that if they are carried over 12 months, hospitals will begin to charge interest, but I think this may depend on the individual hospital or doctor’s office. I also think that it helps to take a pro-active approach to paying this debt. Announce up front that you’re not a dead-beat and you’ll get a lot more cooperation.

In July, 2008, we helped some friends move. We’d barely begun and one of our friends pushed John though the house, ordering him to go sit out in the truck and wait for us to get things loaded. He was pale, clammy and looked like he would faint. His internist thought he spotted the problem as a side-effect of one of his medications. The doctor discontinued that particular medicine, but John still suffers from that symptom after only a few minutes of work.

So…John could no longer work at all. In August, after he sat out several art fairs where we sold our jewelry, I announced, “We must increase our disability income. This is too hard on me to do alone.” In September, we visited the Disabled Veterans representatives (DAV) to ask for help with increased VA disability. John’s internist wrote a 3 page letter describing his condition and how it has worsened in the three years since he began seeing him. The DAV rep submitted that letter and the request for increased disability to the VA. That was almost a year ago. We began a long correspondence with the VA. In November, 2008, John was examined for two medical conditions having to do with his disability. He has received requests for more information, which he answered. And we waited.

In January, 2009, we were broke again with about half the income we needed to pay the bills that had been building through the worsening economy, John’s increasing medical care and decreasing ability to work. We were privileged to have some friends and family to offer a personal “bail-out.” I hung out my writing shingle again and was fortunate to find work. But our disability income remains the same and we wait.

Yesterday, we received a notice (after about 3 months of silence) announcing another medical examination. This one seems to be a repeat of one of the exams last November, except that it will be done at a VA medical center. Last November, the VA was outsourcing the exams.  Phone calls asking about this new exam have been fruitless. The DAV rep is clueless. His advice was to do what they say. And we will.

I wish I could draw a happy ending…John gets his requested disability, rests as easily as possible and I go on to write the great American novel. But the fact is that he may get it and he may not or, here’s the really awful possibility, they could decrease his disability after a re-examination of the records. I can’t imagine that happening, but John keeps warning me that we took a risk when we asked for more.

My advice for anyone who is thinking about this path is to keep your records. If you or your loved-one is in the military and something happens (you are injured or witness something horrifying), request the records if there are any, keep a journal, name names of those who can provide corroborating evidence, and keep everything in a safe place. If you’re injured on the job or in some other way, keep those records and get ready to process paper work.

1.   Buy a file box and start organizing:

  • one file for medical records (more than one if numerous conditions are involved),

  • one file for letters back and forth from the agency you’re requesting disability from

  • more files for individual incidents.

2.   Date everything.

3.   Keep copies of everything.

4.   Answer all correspondence

5.   Get a doctor who can communicate and will work with you…not a quack, but a sincere professional who takes “patient care” seriously and knows what she/he is doing.

6.   Become a patient advocate or get one if you are the one who is sick or injured.

People ask me all the time, “How did you manage to get disability without an attorney?” The answer is simple: we were persistent. We followed the rules; we made sure we had evidence for every claim and we didn’t give up. Even if you need the help of an attorney, you’ll still need to keep everything pertaining to your claim organized.

When the topic of disability comes up, someone always tells me about some person who got disability when they had an accident several years ago. Now, that person is well and is a world-traveler or leads some other luxurious life-style, still collecting disability. They are the abusers of the system. And there is a clause in most disability rulings that if your condition is “improved,” you must pay back fraudulent disability payments you received. I also want to know what disability they are receiving. So far, I know of no fortune available unless you’ve been able to sue for damages and won. Most disability is provided as a livable income. You can be comfortable, but not extravagant.

Questions are welcome. I’m glad to clarify and share what little I know.




Here’s Looking at You Babe–Happy Pill

Thursday, September 10th, 2009

Personally, I’m not good at handling stress. I stay focused on the goal and ignore much of what might be happening to me as I work to achieve it. Then some physical something will happen and I wake up to my feelings. These have ranged from Irritable Bowel Syndrome to momentary blindness-causing spots (usually attributed to Type A 40 year old men).

I’m posting Dr. Nancy’s article on biofeedback up on my bulletin board, along with other quotes and messages I want to have handy when I need them. This simple method of using imagery to calm ourselves is a terrific way to relax and become present.

I tried it myself. If you don’t already have a discipline you can easily follow to stop the chattering voice of stress that’s driving you to destruction and possible physical ailment, try this one. It’s easy to follow, because Dr. Nancy uses the natural abilities we’ve developed from the time we were infants before we ever heard of stress.

Here’s Looking At You Babe…” works better than any “happy pill” I could take



Is Healthy the New Skinny?

Tuesday, July 7th, 2009

We loved this June 29 post by Andrea we found online. We women need to grab hold of this concept – that our body changes do not define who we are. Right on, Sisters!

“Healthy is the new Skinny: Obsession with body perfection”

(In a recent radio interview) I mentioned the term “Mommy makeover” and realized I may have offended some people by talking about this. This was not my intention, and I apologize if I may have offended anyone who has undergone a tummy tuck and/or breast augmentation after having a baby. My overall point is that after having a baby, many times a woman’s body is not the same as it was before. Fat is in places it wasn’t before, extra skin may be on the tummy and breasts sag. One of my good friends has even told me her husband calls her breasts “udders”. Nice.

What I want to emphasize is that if we work on accepting these body changes for what they are: body changes and nothing else, we can learn to live with them instead of relying on plastic surgery to give us back what (we thought) we needed. Whose standards is it that we have to have a flat stomach and perky breasts? That’s what I’m asking. That when did it become so important that we all look like Barbie? I’m not ecstatic that my body doesn’t look like it did before I had kids, but I’m working on loving it for what it is instead of going under the knife. I’m not better than anyone who does get plastic surgery; I know many smart, beautiful, amazing women that have, but I want all women to know that you can have body peace and happiness without plastic surgery. It is possible.

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adventure anyone??

Monday, June 15th, 2009

Have you wanted to go the Outback and be like Crocodile Dundee…I have….we have two  adventurers on Timeless Women Speak Radio….at www.womenspeak.com.  One sailed away and found herself and the other woman just let it all hang out and camped under the stars in the outback each night….she came back with her soul and a lot more.  What have you dreamed of doing and not had the guts to do?  Live fearlessly…we can help you.

Beef Causes Hot Flashes

Tuesday, April 21st, 2009

I have found that when I eat beef, I have more hot flashes. Must be due to the hormones that are given to the cattle.