Archive for November, 2009

No Gain No Pain Read Avoid Holiday Weight Gain

Monday, November 30th, 2009

There are hundreds of magazine covers and articles that entice you to check your weight at the holidays by planning ahead. They tell you to eat before you go to parties. Never arrive at a buffet line hungry. Eat healthy low calorie foods before you go. What they ignore, however, is the emotions that are so wrapped up in the holidays, they can trip you up faster than a child’s roller skate.

Before watching your weight soar, read Dr. Nancy’s article on how to avoid holiday weight gain. She candidly brings to light all of the triggers that can create a frenzy of emotional upheavals that can cause you to comfort yourself with food. Then she tells you how to deal with these triggers in satisfying, non-calorie ways that will help you feel good about the holidays and yourself. Study these coping mechanisms and avoid, not only extra holiday pounds, but those nasty, unfulfillable New Year’s weight loss resolutions as well.

Fitness after 40 Blog

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Being a leading edge Baby Boomer, I endured peri-menopause before most women began discussing it on talk shows or magazines.  I was therefore shocked and amazed at the physiological changes of my body. Forget the hot flashes, panic attacks and mood swings. It was the weight gain that was the shocker.

I had remained a trim 118-120 pounds from the time I was about 18 years old until around 42. Granted my new country life and happy marriage was more conducive to weight gain. Other contributing factors were forest morel mushrooms fried in butter, warm, crusty yeast bread from my leading edge bread machine, the light-as-air buttermilk biscuits I had learned to make for my southern-reared  husband.  And I was no longer a stressed-out, single, corporate ladder-climbing, city-dwelling professional.

I spent the next 15 years packing it on….all the way to 165 pounds. I see-sawed with South Beach and Sugar Busters and fair-weather jogging, but couldn’t ever push it under 140. In my youth, fair-weather jogging was enough to keep it off, but no more….not any more.

If you are facing these struggles, read Dr. Nancy’s article “Fitness after 40.” It has concise, sound guidelines for how to combat, not just mid-life weight gain, but anytime weight and fitness control. Check it out and save your money for some “show off that new body” clothes.

Read “Stress: The Uninvited House Guest.”

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Picturing “stress” like a small invader that travels on your shoulder can help you put it in perspective. Dr. Nancy personalizes stress in this way in her new article, “Stress: The Uninvited Holiday House Guest.”

She outlines our expectations of the holiday season and discusses how unrealistic they are.  Touching on clinical signals of stress, she helps us see how we can build stress until it becomes a health issue. If only we could see it coming.

That’s exactly what this article does. Dr. Nancy concisely lists the signs of stress and provides another list of how we can fight it off and glide smoothly through the holidays with all of our peace of mind in tact. Now that’s a picture worth imagining.

Holiday Gifting Blog

Monday, November 30th, 2009

A Thoughtful Gift Is More Appreciated Than a Costly Gift

A couple of years ago, I started making my dad cookies for Christmas. I had run out of ideas for him. He has every power tool known to man or woman, no longer wears out his clothes and has more magazine subscriptions than he can possibly read in his lifetime. He also has a diabetic wife who no longer bakes like she once did. Having sampled the store-bought cookies at their house, I saw a void I could fill.

I collected my mother’s old cookie recipes and chose three of his favorite ones. I bought huge plastic holiday tubs and baked for a day. He was surprised and seemed interested, but I really didn’t know how much he loved those cookies until my sister and I discussed his gift the following Father’s Day. She groaned about how hard he is to buy for now that he’s 84 years old. Then she said, “You’ve got the cookie-thing nailed down.”

“What?” I asked, not sure I heard right. “What do you mean?”

“He loves those cookies you made at Christmas.” She answered. After some probing, she described how stingy he was with them, how he wouldn’t share with company and managed to nurse them along until March. She assumed that I would bake more for Father’s Day.

Another thing my dad loves is tradition. He does not like change. So that cookie-thing is really nailed down. He returns the holiday tubs each year and I fill them with oatmeal, chocolate chip and ginger snaps every time. He is delighted. And so am I. And so are my nephews who get overflow cookies in their stockings and my husband who gets to snack on warm, fresh-from-the-oven cookies while I bake.

Dr. Nancy’s article on “Holiday Gifting on a Budget” will give you more ideas about ways you can celebrate and honor those you care for this holiday season. Holiday gifts can be more fun when you have to get creative about what to give. Tough economic times can create wonderful memories if you give from your heart and your imagination. Click here to find out more.

Sara Palin Rides Again

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009

Well what do you think??? Her book is out “Going Rogue” and she is making headlines again. She is a very interesting person to say the least. I have to admit I was surprised when she was chosen to run with John McCain on the Republican platform and I had no idea who she was.  I am still confused about what she stands for and what she her plans are to make our country a better place to live.  Her book is just more of the same thing of ”being a rogue” and is not what women need to be or do in our country. Sure, we all like a rebel and we love someone who says and does things that push the envelope. But let’s face it, we also want someone who is well informed, knows the issues, is a good communicator and is a good team player. If she represents the people and speaks to women issues I am not buying it. I do not think she is the next “great hope” for the middle class and the voice of women in our country. I just read an another article about the “gender pay gap” and this seems to be something that women are not getting and not doing more to change. I may be wrong but I really want to hear that women are being “over-paid” one day and that there are no more “firsts” for women. Is Sarah out there really talking the talk for women and seriously walking the walk and are her true intentions to help women be more? Oh, did she really write the book or did someone else help her out? or “Do fairy tales really come true”? and last but not least again, “Can pigs really fly”? Would the real Sarah Palin stand up, please!!

We almost had a woman running for the top executive office in our country in the last election. I had the opportunity to meet and speak to Obama about a female running mate and I saw from his expression he was not ready to do that. I was disappointed and mentioned he owed it to his wife and two daughters to help build a platform for more women in top level positions as political leaders as well as leaders in all walks of life. I can only imagine if you a black American man running for the President of the United States it might be too much to ask of him to have chosen a female running mate.  I think we need to ask more of ourselves as women and encourage women of all ages to begin thinking about being in public service offices and positions to make the world a better place.

Now back to Sarah Palin I am worried we may be blinded by the story and her plight.  I personally found it insensitive to parade her baby and I think it speaks to the kinds of issues she believes are important for her but for not for all of us.  Be careful what you listen to, be careful what you read or watch and do not believe everything thing you see or hear. I just think we need to keep looking for the women who are out there who are in for all of us. If you think I have a screw loose please show me how I might of gone astray.

Women Under 50: Should You Mammo Every Year?

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

Women are worried about the recent recommendation that women under 50 NOT routinely receive mammograms. It’s hard to formulate a coherent rationale when experts have a variety of opinions. That’s what makes health care reform so challenging, isn’t it? Deciding how to allocate our limited resources.

Here are two perspectives I found in my in-box this morning from the RTIR newsletter.

Dr. W. Phil Evans, president of the society for breast imaging (SBI), says the recommendations are a step backward and represent a significant harm to women’s health.

A government health advisory panel has come out with controversial new recommendations about women and mammograms. The group, going against current guidelines set by the American Cancer Society, advises against routine screening for women 40-49 years old, one mammogram every 2 years for women between 50 and 74, and none for women over 74. Dr. Evans, says, “To tell women they should not get regular mammograms starting at 40 when this approach has overwhelmingly been shown to save lives is shocking. At least 40 percent of the lives saved by mammographic screening are of women aged 40-49. These recommendations are inconsistent with current science and apparently have been developed in an attempt to reduce costs. Unfortunately, many women may pay for this unsound approach with their lives.”

In contrast, a women’s health expert says that women’s fear of breast cancer is distracting them from much more important health issues.

Expert Nancy Sharts-Hopko believes the panel’s recommendations are based on long-term observations about what is effective. She adds that women are being misled about their real risks. “By far the number one killer of women is heart disease. One out of two American women will die of heart disease or stroke, which each year kills 356,000 women, compared to 42,000 women who die of breast cancer annually. Yet breast cancer is the top health fear of American women. We have much work to do in aligning women’s perceptions and self-care with this reality.”

Nancy Sharts-Hopko, Ph.D., RN, is a tenured Professor in the Villanova University College of Nursing. She has worked in the field of women’s health nursing for over 30 years; her published research has focused on women’s perceived health during various life and health transitions. She has also served as a member of and later as a consultant to two FDA Advisory Committees.

Here’s my BIG question: Does it have to be either/or?

Man Says Women Have Won the War!

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

I just came across an article in the Huffington Post written by a male author who literally says “women have won the war against men and men are more like women”. I almost fell out of my chair when I read the article. He said  men were doing more housework, childcare and were being more compassionate. I agree these are all important jobs of both mothers and fathers.  Especially if they are lucky to still be married, have a good income, and basically agree to agree to share the roles as parents and as a couple. Point being he did not mention pay equality in jobs, jobs that still are not held by women, and that the “good ole Boys Network” is still blocking women from their full potential.  I must not get too “bitchy” when I talk about the women who tell me about women who still do not have equality in the sports world when it comes to  jobs, pay or opportunities. I also should not get upset in the year 2009  if there still are only a handful of  women in Fortune 500 companies. Thank goodness the smart ones have left and have  started their own companies and are now making 6 figures. I asked a graduate class recently if they thought women were still treated like a Minority group in our country.  I offered information about the lack of equal pay, sexual abuse and crimes against a woman’s body and her  job availability in today’s job market. I told them that children ages 5-12 years old  when asked “if they wanted to be ”a girl or a boy” most often the response was “I want to be a boy“.  When asked “Why?”  Both girls and boys said “boys have more fun, have better jobs and make more money.”  Many of the boys said they would want to kill themselves if they became girls. Out of the mouths of babes come the truths many of us just fail to see or do not want to admit exists. After my presentation the graduate class agreed that women still have minority status in this country despite their great numbers.

I want to remind you if you have not read our book, Timeless Women Speak”, I have three beautiful daughters and will have 7, yes 7 granddaughters so my work of sharing and making sure we do not have our heads in the sand is what is important to me.  Be aware of the market place and how it wages war on our daughters and our own bodies to stay thin, young, and perfect.  We are hit with the mantra: ”Stay young and beautiful if we want to be loved and find MR RIGHT” Sarah Maria is one of our latest smart, amazing women to share her ideas with us. I’ll be talking with her tomorrow and will post the recording on the website for your interest. She has dedicated her life to helping women of all  ages to get over their “NEGATIVE BODY OBSESSION” and loving themselves no matter what they look like.  In her new book “Love Your Body, Love Your Lives” she says “ women hate their bodies.” I say enough is enough! We must end this attack on our bodies, our self-esteem and our self worth.

So if we have won and men are more like women I would like to see some real proof and no more of this silly stuff.  Women need to be aware of what is thrown at them by the media, articles like this one, and being told we are “OK” and it is all ok.  I just heard another horror of a story that a recent medical journal said women should not have mammograms and it was a waste of time to do monthly breast exams.  Bet they do not know anyone with breast cancer. What is going on?  It was called by a news reporter a ”gender genocide” and you know what, I agree with her. We must wake up and make sure we do not fall prey to this kind of thinking or allow it to enter our daughters minds. Keep awake and be sure you know what is really going on. Do not believe everything you read or hear.

I guess I need to be fair and balanced since my last name is O’Reilly so, if you want to read more about this article, go to the Huffington Post and read Marcus Buckingham’s “Pyrrhic Victoria: Why Men Are Becoming More Like Women”, posted on November 17.  Since I am such a good sport, I wish Mr. Buckingham happy trails.


Sarah Palin – What Does The Controversy Say About Women Today?

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

Pundits are working the speaking circuit, offering their views on Sarah Palin. These notes came across my desk from RTIR, a service that offers guests to radio hosts.  Do you agree with either of these speakers’ views of Ms. Palin?

“Palin – Good Example and Horrible Warning?

Sarah Palin has been thrust into the media spotlight again with the release of her new book, “Going Rogue.” BJ Gallagher says whether you love her or hate her, you can learn something from her. “Palin’s story is quintessentially American … a self-made woman from humble background, filled with ambition, ready to take on the world and shake up politics as usual – and looking good while doing it! She shakes things up, generates lots of heat, and gets people’s attention. BUT, she is also a loose cannon – unpredictable, erratic, quick on the trigger to fire at anyone who doesn’t agree with her. Her book is classic Palin … schoolgirl whining and complaining about how rough the big boys play, pouting about her unfair portrayal in
the media, and revealing an incredible level of emotional immaturity.”

OR

“Palin as Feminist

According to conservative political commentator S.E. Cupp, Sarah Palin could be a feminist icon for the 21st century. “In December 2008, Gallup’s annual Most Admired Woman poll put Hillary Clinton on top of the list. Sarah Palin was next, ahead of Oprah Winfrey. So
who is the feminist icon, Clinton or Palin? Such ambiguities crystallize the struggle for women.” Cupp says many women today consider the word feminist today a dirty word. She says, as the debate over modern feminism continues, today’s women have to decide if the women’s movement belongs in the past, present or future. And quite possibly, Palin may emerge as a role model for a new type of feminist.”

Which is it? Or none of the above? Many women today admire and applaud Palin for her willingness to stir controversy. Do you consider feminism to be a “dirty word?”

RADIO: Manage Money Well 5/3/09

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

Timeless Women Manage Their Money Well.

Everybody is worried about money right now, so Dr. Nancy O’Reilly has two guests who can help. Those who have money are encouraged to spend it to stimulate the economy. Yet with millions of people losing their jobs every day, many of us are afraid we might be next. If you feel like you have lost your financial compass and need guidance in this economic storm. Dr. Nancy’s expert guests can help you find solid ways to approach managing your money wisely.

050409-fuchs-dangerBelinda Fuchs is a CPA, an inspiring coach, and frequent TV and radio guest. Her special offers for our listeners are available at ownyourmoney.com/womenspeak.html. As the chief Money Motivator for Ownyourmoney.com, Belinda is dedicated to helping people appreciate their self worth to realize their financial goals.

Kim Danger became a stay-at-home mom on a reduced income and took action. Eight years ago, she founded mommysavers.com, a one-stop resource for families trying to get more value for their money. As part of this mission, Kim is also spokesperson for the Uniroyal, “More Mileage for Your Money” campaign and specializes in communicating ways to save and build a secure financial future.

Dr. Nancy shares a surprising tip on caring for your money, as well as a heartfelt listener email.  Listen now. Listen Now

Book Dr. Nancy for Key Note

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

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